What to tell the doctor about memory problems

You do not need a diagnosis or a perfect record before asking for help. A few everyday examples can make a conversation about memory or concentration easier.

Key takeaways

When is it worth booking an appointment?

If memory problems are affecting your day-to-day life, arrange an appointment with your usual doctor. You do not need to finish an online test or collect weeks of scores first. The NHS memory-loss guide recommends medical advice rather than trying to diagnose the cause yourself.

Make a short note with everyday examples

Write down roughly when the changes started, whether they come and go, and what has become harder. For example: “I lost the thread in two work meetings this week” is more concrete than “my brain is getting worse”. Include changes in shopping, cooking, appointments or paying bills if relevant. The NHS description of a memory assessment explains that clinicians ask about onset and effects on daily life.

Bring the wider context, not just a score

List prescribed medicines, over-the-counter products and supplements, along with existing health conditions. Mention sleep difficulties, anxiety or low mood if relevant. These are part of the history described in NHS assessment guidance; the NHS memory-loss page also lists sleep and mood problems among possible causes. A clinician can review their relevance; a checklist cannot establish the cause.

Ask someone you trust to come, if you want

If you are comfortable, ask someone who knows you well to join the appointment. They can add examples and help remember what was discussed. If you are supporting a parent or partner, describe what you observed rather than assigning a diagnosis, and let them describe their own experience. The NHS appointment guide supports bringing someone who can describe changes.

Questions to take to the appointment

Write down the questions most important to you and ask for unfamiliar terms to be explained, as suggested by NHS appointment guidance. You could ask:

A note you can copy onto paper

Use these prompts for a brief personal note, based on the history covered by NHS memory assessments. Approximate dates and a few examples are enough to start a conversation; this is not a clinical form.

Where an online memory test fits

The existing Digit Span memory test is an optional way to try a short memory task, not a clinical assessment. If you already use it, you can mention the result alongside everyday observations; a low score does not establish a condition and a high score does not rule one out. The NHS assessment guide explains that even clinical cognitive tests do not diagnose dementia on their own. Do not delay an appointment to practise or gather scores.

Sudden confusion is different

If someone suddenly becomes confused, seek immediate medical help rather than waiting for a routine memory appointment or completing a Memo test. The NHS sudden-confusion guidance explains that this can have causes needing urgent assessment. Contact your local emergency service.

How Memo complements this

Memo’s Digit Span memory test offers a short, optional task. An account lets you keep your Memo check-ins together over time; these are personal wellness records, not a diagnosis or a doctor-visit report. For everyday examples involving someone you care for, see observing memory at home.

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Frequently asked questions

Do I need an online memory test before seeing a doctor?

No. Everyday concerns are enough to start a conversation. An online test cannot decide whether you need medical assessment.

Does a memory appointment mean I have dementia?

No. Memory difficulties can have different causes. The appointment is an opportunity to discuss your history and decide what assessment is appropriate.

Can I go with a parent who is worried about memory?

Yes, if they want you there. You can help describe observed changes and remember the discussion, while giving them space to speak for themselves.